E-reading isn’t REAL reading. = I need my personal preferences about my hobby to be validated as the only right and moral way do to a thing.
Making crafts out of old books is a DESECRATION! = I’ve never seen a library dumpster.
I only read prize-winners/confirmed classics *sniff*. = I don’t know how to think for myself.
Book bloggers are killing literary criticism! = I’m an aging white man in publishing and I don’t know how to think for myself.
Oh, I’ve never heard of that book. Was it reviewed in the NYT/on NPR? = I don’t know how to think for myself.
I would never read the tripe that is Twilight/50 Shades/Oprah’s Book Club selection, and I am going to tweet that statement 50 million times. = I am still as worried about being cool as I was when I was in high school.
The book is always better than the movie, no exceptions. = I’ve never seen The Godfather or The Princess Bride and also I am no fun at parties.
Rap music is not poetry, but Joni Mitchell/Bob Dylan/Belle and Sebastian is. = I am racist.
I refuse to use an e-reader because I just love that old book smell. People who do not love that old book smell are not real readers. = My favorite perfume’s base note is mold.
People who shop at Amazon for books are evil. = I have disposable income and like to make moral judgements about people who do not.
I would NEVER dog ear pages, crease a spine, or eat food while reading. = I have unreasonable expectations about how much the people to whom I bequeath my books when I die will actually want them.
I guess it’s good that they’re reading at all. = I will internally judge you until your reading tastes morph to match my own, which are far superior to yours because I read more books written by white men who live in Brooklyn.
I don’t have a TV because that would cut into my reading time. Did I mention I don’t have a TV? Hey. You there. I don’t have a TV. I don’t get that TV reference. = I am not all that interesting. Also, I watch three hours of Netflix a night on my laptop.
I don’t care if the main character is likable. It’s the PROSE that’s the thing. = My ability to tolerate insufferable jerks makes me better than you because you’re obviously only reading for escapism, which is an inferior motivation for reading.
I’m not a romance/crime/Western reader. I mean, I’ll read LITERARY genre. SOMETIMES. = My kitchen is full of quinoa and kale and soy ice cream. Someone please validate what a grown-up I am.
I don’t understand adults who read YA. You’re a grown-up person, you should read grown-up books. = I don’t like dancing in the rain or ice cream cones or trampolines or whimsy and my neck tie is too tight.
In case you haven’t heard, BookRiot is the fucking ish.
“Male privilege is “I have a boyfriend” being the only thing that can actually stop someone from hitting on you because they respect another man more than they respect your rejection/lack of interest.”—
The Sociological Cinema
There was actually research that was done that found that women who used an “I have a boyfriend/husband” excuse to reject unwanted sexual attention and harassment by their bosses were more likely to be left alone than those who used any other excuse (including “I’m not interested”)
Because men respect another man’s property (and that’s how they see us) than a woman’s autonomy.
Several of the concepts employed in Oberyn’s characterization are deeply troubling not only from a bisexual visibility standpoint, but also from a racial one. Oberyn is depicted as a violent, amorous, macho, threatening and unpredictable character which serves to set him apart from the ‘civil’ (and white) lords of Westeros. These stereotypes play in tandem with each other to compound the fact that Oberyn is actively racially and sexually othered by the show.
While PoC diversity on television is great, it becomes problematic when that diversity reinforces harmful stereotypes. The fact that Oberyn is played by a latin@ man and is then written as a fiery-tempered, machismo, amorous warrior serves only to play into the stereotypes that are commonly foisted on the latin@ community. He’s intentionally depicted as an outsider from the moment he steps on screen, both in the way he’s written and the way other characters respond to him. He’s marked as someone who is not readily accepted by the Westerosi lords— and not in a good way. Many of his scenes serve–in almost every aspect of how Oberyn walks, talks, looks, and acts– to mark that he is not from here. That he doesn’t follow customs of this land. That he doesn’t belong. And, within the context of a show that casts the lords and kings as nothing but rich white people, the idea of having the one latin@ prince repeatedly listed as ‘not one of us’ is pretty racist.
Bisexuality, too, is often portrayed pretty negatively in the media. Plenty of shows like to ‘include’ bisexual characters, only to have them fall into the femme-fatale trope or to play up the air of sexual promiscuity as a ratings stunt. And, while there’s nothing wrong with having sexually promiscuous bisexuals, there IS a problem when the bi character’s value, validity, and depth are determined only by their sex life. Bisexual people aren’t sex toys and we sure don’t like being solely portrayed as such—certainly not when bisexuals have high reports of sexual assault and rape (various sources list the current numbers at nearly 49%).
Game of Thrones is no stranger to playing up the sex appeal of a character in order to get attention, and that’s especially done with Oberyn. Within the first five minutes of his on-screen appearance he’s not only stabbed a man, but has also repeatedly and publicly played tonsil hockey with and groped his lover much to the disdain of the Westerosi lords. Frankly speaking, having Oberyn introduced this way (as a raging love machine with a penchant for knives) removes a lot of Oberyn’s original depth and replaces that character with a two-dimensional view of Oberyn’s race and sexuality.
If bisexuals–especially PoC bisexual men–are being painted as violent, irrational, attention seekers who can’t be predicted or controlled, what does this mean for GoT’s depiction of bisexuals? In comparison, Renly too had several sexual encounters with Loras– but his character still maintained depth and subplot. At no time did sex become the defining characteristic or trait of Renly’s story. So, how does this antithetical portrayal translate into the audience’s views and interpretations of bisexuality? Are we supposed to believe that Oberyn represents all bisexuals and that Renly represents all cis gay men? Is it supposed to be implied that bisexuals should be treated as ‘outsiders’ of the LGBTQ community because of their sexual history?